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Is stonewalling a repair attempt? That is my go to tension
breaker, I just quit talking or leave the room. 😊
I suppose
stonewalling doesn’t cure anything, but I can focus on my own thoughts for a
bit and maybe even bite my tongue, if needed.
1. Put your
stuff away! Why is the hair gel and toothpaste always left for me to take care
of?
2. Wash your
dang cereal bowl. The leftovers stick to the bowl and it is twice as hard to
clean.
3. Please
don’t change the radio station when I am in the middle of belting out a
favorite ballad.
4. Can’t you
see I just vacuumed? Or cleaned the mirror?
5. Please
get your Driver’s ed manual outlined…you only have one chapter left and then I
won’t bug you. GRRRRRR!
I could go on and on, and I’m sure
my husband and kids have a list on me too. If we can accept each other’s quirks
and understand that we ALL have them, we could be more flexible and let them be
speed bumps to roll over instead of mountains to climb.
A Primary song says...
” Help me, dear Father to freely
forgive.
All those who seem unkind to me.
Help me each day, Father I pray;
help me live nearer, nearer to thee.”
(Children’s Songbook, 99).
What if we all had this song in our hearts as we dealt with
our spouse, significant other, parents, siblings, children, co-workers, etc.
Would our days take on a more Christ-like tone? Would we be more charitable and
good-hearted towards others? When we choose not to forgive, it can fester and
become ugly, even little things. Remember the princess and the pea. She got up
on top of all of those mattresses and could still feel the pea. I think it is
this was when we don’t forgive, we can always feel it and it could give us a
bad night’s sleep, or anxiety, or heartburn, or anger directed at others.
Learning to forgive is a trait Heavenly Father wants
us all to develop. He forgives us when we right a wrong, repent, and are
willing to do better. This is a great tool He has given us and we are the ones
who have to take hold and fly with it. 